This guy at work has scars on his wrists. He seems the depressive type, really miserable and won%26#039;t talk to anyone. You can%26#039;t get a conversation out of him, it%26#039;s almost laughable, he just looks scared all of the time. He is always diverting his hands if he notices anyone looking at his wrists. Everyone at work is always talking about him, curious about why he cut himself.|||Unless you are his manager and you are upset about his work, why should it matter how he got them or what they are from? Maybe he was abused as a child, or was in an accident and doesn%26#039;t want to talk about it. You should respect that and leave him to it. If he wants to tell you he will.|||maybe he didn%26#039;t do it himself why don%26#039;t you all just mind your own business|||It%26#039;s none of your business, he owes you nothing and you have no right to ask him.
What age are you- 4???
He%26#039;s at work, earning a living, functioning and contributing to society. He doesn%26#039;t need the school bullies on his case, does he??
Get a life and grow up.|||Why do you need to know.
Maybe at his old place of work there was a mad old gossip who went mad and slashed everyones wrists! You know how bullys are supposed to have been bullied in the past - I would watch out if I were you!!
Seriously, leave him alone. The nicer you are to people the happier the world will be.|||why do you need to ask him about them, most likely they are from a suicide attempt, and he obviously doesn;t want anyone to know about it. Its really none of your business, if it concerns you that much mak up your own story about it, and then get over it.|||I would just leave him alone. If he wants to tell what happened he will but I wouldn%26#039;t ask him. Everyone has things they have done in their past that they regret. He probably has problems that he doesn%26#039;t want to talk about.|||Just be open and friendly but don%26#039;t ask about the wrists. If he feels safe he may want to talk eventually, but if you%26#039;re all talking about him behind his back then it%26#039;s bound to make him feel threatened and withdraw. Put yourself in his shoes for a moment. If you%26#039;d had a really difficult time and it had left your scarred would you want it to be the subject of office gossip?|||no wonder he is the way he is with being talked about and stared at alot of the time, leave the poor bloke be and mind your own business.
he probably needs friends not people to take the pi55 out of him|||maybe hes depressed cos you lot are talking about him, leave the poor guy alone if he wants to talk he%26#039;ll talk!|||It%26#039;s none of your business! If he wants to talk about it he%26#039;ll bring it up.|||Maybe he would respond to a friendly approach, like being asked down the pub. Accept him as he is, and treat him like one of he blokes. If he is aware of being talked about, it%26#039;s not going to help him at all.
It sounds like he has some nerve issues, and needs to be approached in a non-judgemental and non nosey way, and on his own terms. You never know what emotional baggage a person is carrying round.|||Do not ask about them. It really is noone%26#039;s business except his. If he seems to be depressed, try to befriend him. Invite him for coffee or to join you for lunch. It may take awhile. If he turns you down the first time, ask him several more times. Smile %26amp; say good morning to him, calling him by name so he knows you%26#039;re speaking to him. Find things you can compliment him on. His hair? clothes? cologne? the way he does his job? Once you get to be friends, perhaps he%26#039;ll tell you then. Let him have his privacy.|||scars are his business. id hate to be the poor guy working with u lot|||I feel that if this person wanted to speak about them he would.
It would be difficult to approach the subject without him putting up a barrier.
Treat him like a normal person and he may tell someone, please do not stare or make comments behind his back as you could cause a lot of damage.
I have some bad scars on my face that i felt deeply about (an accident at 10 year old) and because i did not want to speak about them i was treated differently, believe me it is not a nice feeling to be seen as different.
Be friendly and supportive as he may need a friend.|||what%26#039;s more important, getting this guy to talk about his cuts, or getting on with your job, in a good 99% of cases, the job comes out tops, so lets not ask this man why he has these scars, he doesn%26#039;t feel comfortable about it and its his private bussiness, why bother asking him Let this man do his job.|||If you actually ask him, he will probably quit his job from embarrassment. Leave him alone and respect his privacy, or if you must talk to him, just be normal and talk about normal stuff. Let him open up to you without you forcing the issue. That%26#039;s only if you really want to get to know him. If this is just gratuitous titillation, then leave the poor guy alone.|||It is none of your business, and you are adding to his problems with your rude inquiries. In these days of violence in the workplace, where people bring guns to work and shoot at mean coworkers, I would definetly mind my own business, and advise the rest of your gang to likewise stop.. You never knpw about a person, and a obviously depressed person needs help, No wonder he looks scared, with you and the gang harrassing him, laughing at him. Glad you do not work with me!.|||Honestly it sounds like it%26#039;s none of your business. I don%26#039;t think he would trust anyone at work to talk to about it either because it sounds like you guys are treating him like a freak show. Have a little compassion would ya.|||you should leave him alone, maybe he is depressed because everyone is gossipping about him|||what a shame. he obviosly doesn`t want to talk about it if he tries to hide the scars!! leave him alone and mind your own business!!!!! mental illness is no joke. treat him no differently. i wouldn`t want to talk to a bunch of nosey arseholes that talk about me behind my back either.|||I%26#039;m sure the fact that his coworkers staring and whispering at him isn%26#039;t helping matters.
Everyone should just back off until he feels comfortable enough (if ever) to talk about it. Maybe he doesn%26#039;t want to, and that%26#039;s fine too. The scars on his wrists don%26#039;t affect his work ability (I assume) so why is it necessary to question him about them?|||Mind your own business. Hes obviously self concious of them, you are making it worse.
BTW my b/f has scars on his wrists too. They are from a skin graft.|||My advice is not to ask him...wait to see if he chooses to tell you, and if he doesn%26#039;t then he clearly doesn%26#039;t want to discuss it! Perhaps you should ask yourslef why you want to know? You don%26#039;t sound terribly empathic towards his depression and nor do the people you work with. Maybe its just plain noseyness? Try a bit harder to get to know him and accept him for the person he is and not what his arms look like.|||maybe he is self conscious because you seem more interested in his scars than his personality. Just make an effort to include him but don%26#039;t crowd him and he may eventually come out of his shell. As for the scars he may not want to discuss them so I wouldn%26#039;t ask him. It may just be something really boring like a carpal tunnel op, but if he did try to take his own life then that is not something you want to be talking about at work, would you?|||You sound like a jerk. Think about something your self conscious about. For example if your overweight and everybody at work talks about you being fat. It%26#039;s probably something he%26#039;s not proud of and doesn%26#039;t want to talk about. Get a life.|||Whoa... back off!
Obviously he doesn%26#039;t trust you people, and obviously you don%26#039;t actually care about him but just want to gossip and satisfy your morbid curiosity.
Maybe if you actually try to CARE about him, you will find ways to help and support him. Go slowly and lovingly.|||Honestly, it%26#039;s not your business. But as a survivor of suicide myself, I once told a woman who had slash-scars on her wrists about how I noticed she had scars and how good Dermablend works on scars of all types. We got to talking at that point, and the Dermablend makeup and stacks of bracelets did help. (In his case, he can use a heavy leather watch as well as Dermablend.)
He%26#039;s probably in a very touchy and delicate place right now. Suicide survivors, recent ones, often are. Imagine having just had someone try to kill you. Imagine that you can%26#039;t get away from them. That%26#039;s his situation.
He%26#039;s probably also touchy because he knows he%26#039;s the subject of gossip, so stop it!|||DON%26#039;T ask him.!!!
How RUDE!!!!
If you like him and are genuinly concerned about his welfare then just be pleasant to him each time you see him and DON%26#039;T join in with the gossips!
This person has had a traumatic past. be gentle with him.|||the way to interact with him is not to pry into his personal life. A simple hello or good morning is always a way to get people to know that you are a friend. Invite him to lunch. Ask him how his weekend went. Don%26#039;t ask him about a possible painful past...its almost as if your curiosity is linked to some deep seeded obsession of wanting to judge people for their mistakes. Be a friend not talk show host.|||IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS
let it go-- your morbid curiosity does not give you the right to pry.
if you had an obvious scar would you want people staring and bugging you about it? have some empathy|||You should get the personnel manager to get him help.
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