I%26#039;m a 21 year old guy and I hate being and looking like this. Its not fair.|||My husband does too. He was born with a couple of things wrong: a normal hole that didn%26#039;t close like it was supposed to and a misshapen valve. They went in at about 8 months and fixed it and he has no limitations because of it. I can imagine that this is something you are self conscious of. I%26#039;m sorry that it makes you feel uncomfortable. You are who you are though. I%26#039;m glad you made it through your surgery. My husband%26#039;s scar doesn%26#039;t bother me in the least. People are always curious about things like that and wonder what the story behind it is. None of them are looking at you thinking you are some kind of freak. Someone would have to be a complete moron to not know what your scar is from. And if that is the case then who cares what a moron thinks. As for your future, my husband had no trouble finding a beautiful wife that loves him and having three healthy kids with her and so will you.|||Everyone has some type of scar on them. Nobody has flawless skin. Im afraid the only thing that will fix it is cosmetic surgery by a doctor which you can save money for and do later in life. Until then, When meeting a girl you like let them know immediately you have a scar and show them. Report Abuse
|||It%26#039;s totally random how this happened, but I%26#039;ve dated 3 guys who have pectis excavatum - you know, the defect where your chest goes inward. And another guy with scars all over his back from previous skin cancer surgeries.
I%26#039;m quite attractive, and I most definitely could%26#039;ve pulled hotter guys, but it%26#039;s not looks that make you worthwhile - it%26#039;s what%26#039;s inside that head.
Guys, girls, it doesn%26#039;t matter. If you ever get pissed, just remember the words of OutKast - %26quot;Mighty fine only got you somewhere half the time%26quot;.|||Hello,
I actually have had a couple of surgeries myself. (Lung and two masses in my breast) So I look like all stitched up, from the surgeries and tubes that had to be placed. My father wanted me to have plastic surgery to have them removed, but after some thinking I believe they are part of me and made me who I am today. You should be proud of them! Im sure that all the experiences that you have been through have made you a stronger and more mature person and that is something no one can take away from you. I don’t deny that there will be people along the way that will find your scars hard to look at, but why would you even care for their opinion or even want to be associated with someone that superficial in the 1st place.
I once read….”Scars are the tattoos of the brave”
Just take it easy and try not to think about it. If anyone really loves you they will regardless!
BTW some girls might even find it sexy!
|||Honestly, I think the solution is going to have to come from two places.
1. Look into laser scar removal if your scars are a different color than your skin. It probably won%26#039;t be 100% because it sounds like they are older scars. They may be able to drastically reduce the scars, however. If the scars are raised, rather than discoloration, microdermabrasion may help take away some of the damage.
2. You are going to have to come to a place of acceptance about your scars. If you can come to think of them as badges of pride that show you are a survivor, you might start
Hopefully if you work on both of these things, you can find a happy medium. More acceptance and less scar will go a long way towards fixing the problem!
|||At this age, ppl are more superficial than ever. However, there are girls out there that honestly don%26#039;t care and don%26#039;t base their life on how perfect everything should be. Scars in an area that can be covered are nothing...think about how much worse it is for others with much worse conditions. I have a friend that has some serious scars on her throat and chest and she has no problem dating, socializing or liking herself. She%26#039;s 22 years old and has much more to worry about! It%26#039;s something that you have to realize is part of your life, so you have to adapt. Just like women that get breast cancer and lose one or both, or men with testicular cancer...you get the point. |||Yes, I%26#039;m sure that bothers you, but whose body is perfect? I recently saw a picture of Arnold Schwarzeneger (sp?) in a Speedo, and lemme just say yikes!
My friend%26#039;s son was born with a heart defect and was fortunate enough to get a heart transplant at three days old. He%26#039;s about 9 now. And he is always laughing and happy and very secure.
Be grateful that you%26#039;re alive; I%26#039;m sure your family and friends are! :)|||As cheesy this may sound, it%26#039;s the truth.. It%26#039;s only the inside that counts. Besides scars show that you have been through some tough times.. i just hope those scars haven%26#039;t become wounds. :)
I do not pray for success, I ask for faithfulness.
Mother Teresa
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
Mother Teresa
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God%26#039;s sight. [1 Peter 3:3-4]|||i had open heart surgery at 6 years old and have that scar too, i see it as a part of my history, a part of who i am.
its not the end of the world, but it would have been if you wouldnt have had the surgery that gave you that scar.
If this is all you worry about then you have it really easy.|||a good person will always look at a persons words %26amp; actions.
appearance means nothing to humble individuals.
remember there%26#039;s ppl with missing limbs, dont u have it easier?
anyways u have life %26amp; other beauties from your 1Lord.
Allah tasketh not a soul beyond its scope. For it (is only) that which it hath earned, and against it (only) that which it hath deserved. Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget, or miss the mark! Our Lord! Lay not on us such a burden as thou didst lay on those before us! Our Lord! Impose not on us that which we have not the strength to bear! Pardon us, absolve us and have mercy on us, Thou, our Protector, and give us victory over the disbelieving folk. (286)
read the Qur%26#039;an http://www.quranexplorer.com/quran/
Sami%26#039; Allahu liman hamida. Rabbana lakal hamd.
Allah hears all who praise Him. Our Lord, for You is all praise|||You need to adjust your attitude. It%26#039;s amazing the things people will overlook if one has an upbeat personality. Really, personality and attitude will help you overcome these feelings and will help others overlook your faults.|||You are who you are and God created you to be you.He had the special design in mind.Remember you are the clay and God is the potter.|||Life is not fair. i have arthritis and chronic diarrhea, this also is not fair, get over your scars, they are a sign that you are a survivor|||Life is never fair but the people who overcome the harsh realities are the ones who achieve the greatest personal growth.|||You got the scars and deformity in a gang fight when they ran over you with their Hogs. All seventeen of them. You drug the eighteenth one off and put the hurts on him. |||Last I heard, life was hard, not fair.
That being said, have you discussed your depression over with Your Doctor and with God? Might help your outlook.|||Are you walking around topless?
Most likely, you%26#039;re the only one who notices your scars. Focus on your good qualities.|||Scars are hot, some little momma will want to take care of you.|||I have a hideous scar on my forehead. Both of our scars show that we are survivors.|||Hello JG
Those scars are the product of an event that allows you to be alive today, so they hold great value.
Sadhara|||Chicks dig scars.|||Life%26#039;s not fair. Get used to it and move on.|||dont be so hard on your self. |||What is your question? I am sorry for you but you are not in the right place to complain. |||And your question is?|||remember jesus bears scars as well -it%26#039;s not about how u look but who u r in christ - peace be with u always|||life is not fair for anyone....in my family we are born with asthma...my mom died at 46....things happen....complaining wont help...see friends..
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
No comments:
Post a Comment